That’s the average number of conscious choices an adult makes in one day.
Most of these choices are small and seemingly unimportant in the grand scheme of things. Things like: What to wear? What to eat? When to leave? What to watch? Which fork? Which route? What song? You get the picture.
Then there are bigger choices. Ones that affect us on a deeper level. You know the ones… choices that make us stop and contemplate what the outcome will be. The ones that affect ourselves or others in a way that demands our time and attention.
Are you selfish? Is your default to think of your own happiness or comfort? Is your expectation to get your own way?
Are you cautious? Do you let fear drive you? Do you worry until you finally make the decision based on the least risky thing?
Are you a people pleaser? Do you think about how your decision will make you look? Do you decide things to get the approval of others?
Are you discontent? Does your unhappiness drive you to always want more? Do you find yourself with an empty longing?
Are you angry? Do you look for ways to vent and hurt others? Do you live on crisis? Do you want revenge?
Are you critical? Do you choose what builds yourself up and puts others down?
I’m proposing something we rarely consider….
Our attitude is a choice. The way we make decisions is a choice. The way we treat people is a choice. We are responsible for these very things and we need to contemplate the immensity of the choices we make.
What if we made our choices based on something much more important than our own happiness, comfort, needs and wants…. what if we thought of others first? In place of our negative thinking and selfish motives, what if we could ask these questions:
Are you kind? Do you think about ways you can help others?
Are you encouraging? Do you look for ways to build others up with your words and actions?
Are you patient? Do you prefer others and give up your own timeline if the need arises?
Are you giving? Do you look for needs and try to meet them?
Are you content? Do you have gratefulness for all you have?
If our thoughts are based on simple kindness, patience, and good will towards others, our attitude changes, and so do our choices.
As I ponder my years on this earth, I have learned that choices are never meaningless. I can choose to live my life to benefit myself, or I can use the opportunities I have to serve, love, respect, help and encourage others. I have made many choices I wish I could take back…and I’ve made choices that have brought much joy to myself and others. It’s one choice at a time, and they are my choices to make.
So, what do your choices say about you? I would like to challenge you to reflect on these thoughts and keep them in mind as you make your many choices each day.
When you get to the end of your life…will your choices fill you with regret? Or will they fill you with peace and fulfillment from a life well-lived?
If you are looking for more thoughts on faith and choices, join me in my Deeper Truths section. (Coming soon!)